Life In The Middle

Overcoming The Insurmountable With The Words "I Can"

Have you ever thought about how limiting it is when a person says “ I’d love to do that, but I can’t do it? “I can’t” is probably one of the greatest weapons available to ensuring failure in life. You never have to face rejection if “I can’t” has protected you from attempting something new and challenging. You’ll never take a class. You’ll never forgive a friend. You’ll never start a healthier lifestyle. You’ll never see someone else’s viewpoint. You’ll never see the person standing next to you, who could really use some help in life. By failing to act, you do not achieve.

I think most of us imagine that what we are actually doing is being modest. Another person can probably do it better than us, so let him do it and get the credit. Thus, we wrap ourselves up in the warmth of “I can’t” and imagine, I probably could do it, but this gives the other fellow a chance to shine in life.

It’s only when life unexpectedly thrusts a difficult experience upon you that you find out you can’t hide behind your old friend “I can’t”. When you are handed a child with a new diagnosis of diabetes, you don’t have the option of saying “I can’t learn about diabetic diets, and insulin, and shots.” “I can’t” isn’t an option to you. The only option you have is I can and I will.

Another place that the phrase, “ I can’t” doesn’t stand, is when cancer comes to call. You see, cancer is one of those words that shows no respect for who you are, or how much money you have. Most of us will have cancer touch our own lives or a loved one or a close friend. Somewhere along the road of life, cancer seems to ferret out our hiding place, and presents himself at our door. The question is how will we deal with his arrival? All of our “I can’t’s” in life won’t help during these trying times.

When we overcome the fear of the insurmountable in any situation, be it diabetes, cancer, divorce, or whatever; we’ll find that by climbing over the experience our life changes. Step by step we eventually find ourselves on the top of that formidable mountain with our hands raised in victory.

Another interesting thing about setting aside the words “I can’t”, and replacing them with “I can” and facing the insurmountable is this. Over time the experience will bring out the best in us. I have often wondered about that. Why is it that some individuals can turn into a comforter for those who are having a hard time dealing with an experience? Sometimes this change into being a comforter can happen to a person who has never had a keen amount of sensitivity. Yet such an individual seems to know what needs to be expressed to the person with the problem. The comforter will walk with the individual and offer positive support. He’ll understand some important things needed to overcome the problem and be able to clearly communicate these to the person going through the bad experience. In this way he helps the individual overcome his problem and become a winner.

As the trials of life come your way, may you all remember the best way to triumph is by embracing the words “I Can, I Will”. Just something to think about. Until Later... Colleen

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